Why Do Some People Touch Our Souls More Than Others?
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Have you ever met someone who, despite being in your life for a relatively short period of time, left a profound mark on you?
Maybe it was a romantic relationship that lasted only a few weeks or months, or maybe it was someone you met while travelling, someone you dated briefly, or even someone you never ended up having a proper relationship with.
And yet, years later, you still remember that person. Not necessarily because you miss them or want them back, but because something about that connection felt different.
On the scale of a lifetime, your encounter was merely a glimpse. And yet, somehow, this particular person managed to touch your soul in a way that others, perhaps even those who spent years by your side, never did.
Why does that happen?
Why do we meet hundreds, if not thousands, of people throughout our lives, yet only a handful leave a mark that stays with us? Why do some connections feel almost instantaneous, as if you've known that person forever, even though you've only just met? And perhaps the most interesting question: what if a relationship's significance has very little to do with its duration?
I don't know about you, but I've been curious to understand this phenomenon for quite some time.
Of course, as someone who practices regression therapy, I can always approach this question from the perspective of past lives and karmic connections.
Through past-life exploration, we can investigate whether two people share a deeper connection, whether their souls have crossed paths before, and whether unresolved lessons or experiences brought them back together.
In my practice, these explorations often reveal what clients interpret as karmic connections. And as one of my teachers, Dr. Yuvraj Kapadia jokingly said during our transpersonal regression therapy course: if you meet someone and feel as if you’ve known them forever, RUN! This is karmic (so it will be painful).
Regression sessions can certainly help people find personal answers to questions that may have bothered them for years.
But because I practice several different modalities, I've always been fascinated by something else.
What do all these modalities have in common?
Different Modalities, the Same Truth?
Over the past 6 years, I've been studying and practicing various approaches to understanding human behaviour, consciousness, our subconscious programming, and the patterns that shape our lives.
And one of my favourite things to do is compare them.
* Crazy shit alert: after doing a life purpose session during our transpersonal regression training, I know why – I love knowledge because in one of my previous incarnations, at least as per that session, I was inhabiting a knowledge planet – like a library of the universe that got destroyed because they didn’t want anyone to have access to true knowledge anymore.
But back to what my love of comparison charts has anything to do with the life of practical humans. Whether we're talking about hypnotherapy, regression, Tarot, Kabbalah, numerical psychology, or other spiritual systems, I'm always curious to see where they overlap and where they differ.
And spoiler alert: they have a lot in common.
To me, these similarities suggest that different traditions describe universal principles, each in its own language. After all, the truth is universal; it's just wrapped in different covers.
If it wasn’t, would it even be the truth?
One modality may call something karma or tikkun, another may describe it as a subconscious pattern, while a third uses numbers, archetypes, or planetary energies to explain a similar phenomenon. The terminology changes, but the underlying ideas can be surprisingly similar.
This is also why I've always felt that our date of birth contains far more nuance than a simple description of our personality.
Those of you familiar with my work in numerical psychology already know that I use the date of birth to calculate what we call the Consciousness Number, the Mission Number, and the Matrix.
Sometimes, knowing just the day someone was born—their Consciousness Number—is enough to give you an interesting perspective on how that person perceives the world, what motivates them, how they communicate, and why they may behave a certain way.
I unpack these concepts in my individual sessions and teach people how to use them in my numerical psychology workshops. But I felt there was more to discover. I wanted to understand not only who we are as individuals, but also why two particular people meet and what happens when their energies come together.
And so I started looking.
When the Student Is Ready, the Teacher Appears
There's a saying: When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
And this has been remarkably true throughout my life. Whenever I have a question I genuinely want to answer, I seem to come across someone who helps me find it. Sometimes that person appears through a recommendation, sometimes through a completely unexpected encounter, and sometimes almost by accident.
This time was no different. After spending quite some time researching, comparing different systems and working with various large language models to explore the connections between numerical psychology, Tarot and Kabbalah, I accidentally stumbled upon a teacher who introduced me to a modality called Destiny Matrix.
Now, let me tell you something: learning yet another modality was absolutely NOT on my agenda. In fact, I promised myself I wouldn't start studying anything new for a while. Because the learning curve is endless.
For the past 6 years, I've been studying almost religiously. And at some point, you realize that there will always be another course, another technique, another system, another layer of knowledge to explore.
I already have quite a few modalities under my belt, and I don't practice each one in isolation. Quite the opposite, I combine my knowledge and choose the approaches I believe are most appropriate for the particular issue a client brings to me. So the last thing I was planning to do was add another modality to my collection.
But when Destiny Matrix came into my life, something clicked, and I realized it was exactly what I had been looking for over the past couple of years.
What Is Destiny Matrix?
Destiny Matrix is a system that uses your date of birth and 22 archetypal energies associated with the Major Arcana of Tarot to explore different aspects of your personality, life path, and relationships.
It draws on numerological and esoteric traditions and offers a symbolic framework for understanding our strengths, challenges, recurring patterns, and what practitioners describe as karmic lessons.
What fascinated me most was how beautifully it complemented my existing knowledge of numerical psychology. Because now I could explore not only the individual, but also the connection between two individuals.
Why did these two people meet?
What brought them together?
What lessons might they have for one another?
What are their strengths as a couple?
What are the potential challenges?
And perhaps most importantly, what can each person do to help the relationship grow instead of repeating the same destructive patterns?
Naturally, I started experimenting.
I ran compatibility analyses on several connections from my own life, including people who had played particularly important roles. I was genuinely fascinated by how accurately some interpretations seemed to reflect my experiences. Not just the obvious things, but certain nuances of those relationships that I hadn't expected to see reflected in the matrices.
Of course, I see these systems as tools for reflection rather than scientific proof of destiny. But personally, the results were compelling enough to make me want to explore the modality much further.
And this brings me back to the question I started with: why do some people touch our souls more than others?
What If Every Relationship Is a Contract?
I want you to think about relationships from a slightly different perspective.
What if every relationship is a contract between two souls?
Imagine two parties coming together and signing an agreement.
Every party has certain rights, responsibilities, and obligations. This agreement has a purpose, something both parties are supposed to accomplish. Once that purpose is fulfilled, the contract may naturally come to an end.
Now apply this principle to human relationships: what if some people come into our lives not to stay forever, but to help us accomplish something? Sometimes that something is beautiful, and often — incredibly painful. Sometimes we only understand that connection's purpose years after it ends.
For example, two people may come together because they're destined to have children. They fall in love, get married, start a family, and eventually realize their romantic relationship no longer works. They separate, but remain connected through their children and become co-parents.
From a soul-contract perspective, having those children may have been one of the main purposes of their union.
Or maybe you meet someone, fall in love, and that person introduces you to a completely new world. Perhaps through them you discover a new profession, meet someone who changes the direction of your life, or develop an interest that eventually becomes your vocation.
Maybe that person helps you move to another country. Maybe they challenge your beliefs or force you to confront something about yourself you've been avoiding for years. And sometimes the lesson is much harsher: a broken heart, betrayal, infidelity, rejection.
An experience that forces you to reconsider your boundaries, your self-worth, or the kind of relationship you're willing to accept. By the way, I'm not suggesting that betrayal or mistreatment is justified just because it might teach us a lesson. But I do believe that even our most painful experiences can become opportunities for growth if we're willing to see them from a different perspective. Sometimes, what initially feels like a devastating ending becomes the beginning of an entirely new chapter.
My Own Example
Let me give you an example from my own life.
I am almost convinced that one of my ex-husband's main roles in my life was to help me relocate to Dubai. That's where I found my community, discovered my new vocation, started exploring the modalities that eventually became such an important part of my life, and truly connected with what I believe is my life purpose.
Would that have happened if I had stayed in Moscow?
Maybe. But I suspect it would have been a completely different journey, and maybe I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing today.
So when I look back at that relationship through the lens of a soul contract, I can see the important purpose it served. And once that purpose was fulfilled, our romantic relationship no longer made sense, and we went our separate ways (rather fast :)). But that doesn't mean the relationship was a failure. Quite the opposite – it played an incredibly important role in my life, and I'm grateful for that. We're still quite friendly, and I genuinely wish him all the best from the bottom of my heart, and I know he feels the same.
Which brings me to another thought.
What if we stopped measuring a relationship's success solely by whether it lasted forever? What if we started asking ourselves what that relationship brought into our lives, what it taught us, and how it helped us become the people we are today?
Perhaps we would look at some of our past relationships very differently, and we'd find it easier to let go of the ones that have already served their purpose.
By the way, one of the most amazing tools I learned myself and have been teaching my clients, friends, family, and colleagues is 7x70, a way to connect with another human not on the ego level, but on the soul level. If you want to improve your relationship with someone or get closure, say the following phrase 70 times for 7 consecutive days: I, the soul of Zara, thank for all the lessons and apologize to the soul of John (John being the name of another person, irrespective of the nature of your relationship). Naturally, the more pain a relationship invokes, the harder this practice is, and the more it indicates you should absolutely do it. And of course, if you skip a day, you have to start again.
Why 2026 Made Me Look More Closely at Relationships
Now, there's another interesting aspect to this story.
According to numerical psychology, 2026 has been my personal year 2, and the energy of 2 is associated with the Moon – the energy of relationships, emotional sensitivity, intuition, connections, and looking within. It's a year when our attention may naturally shift towards the people in our lives: the relationships we want to establish, and the connections we want to strengthen. And sometimes, the relationships we need to reconsider or let go of because they no longer work for us, whether we've outgrown them or finally realized a relationship has been unhealthy, even toxic, and we were simply oblivious before.
So it's probably no coincidence that relationships, both personal and professional, have been on my radar more than usual this year.
And now, as we've entered a new energetic year, I'm gradually transitioning towards my personal energy of 3. Three is associated with Jupiter — the planet of wisdom, knowledge, expansion, teaching, leadership, and justice.
Given my love of learning and analyzing everything, that sounds right!
By the way, if you're curious what 2027 has in store for you, you can calculate your personal year too: take your birth day and month, reduce them to single digits, and add the energy of the universal year.
For 2027, the universal year is 2, because 2 + 0 + 2 + 7 = 11, and 1 + 1 = 2.
For example, if you were born on 18 October, your day is 1 + 8 = 9, your month is 1 + 0 = 1, and your 2027 calculation is 9 + 1 + 2 = 12, which reduces to 3.
And if you want to understand what your personal year means, you can download my free Personal Year Guide.
Introducing Love Compatibility Through Destiny Matrix
So, coming back to Destiny Matrix.
The more I explored this modality, the more I realized how useful it could be for understanding relationships. First, it gives you another perspective on yourself, your strengths, your shadow side, your recurring patterns, and the lessons you may need to work through.
Secondly, it helps you understand the other person, whether that's your current partner, your ex, or someone you've only recently met and are particularly interested in. Thirdly, it lets you explore the dynamics of your connection.
Why might you have met?
What do you bring into each other's lives?
Where are your energies particularly compatible, and where might you encounter challenges?
And why might this particular person have affected you so deeply, while someone else, who perhaps looked perfect on paper, left you completely indifferent?
The Destiny Matrix framework offers one way to reflect on these questions.
And that's why this November, I'm introducing a new service: Love Compatibility based on the Destiny Matrix.
Now, Destiny Matrix isn't limited to romantic relationships; you can also use it to explore your financial patterns, life purpose, strengths, challenges, shadow aspects, and other areas of your life.
It's a remarkably versatile system.
And who knows? Maybe next year, under the influence of Jupiter and my personal year 3, I'll introduce another product to help you explore where your money is hiding according to your Destiny Matrix.
But for now, we're focusing on love and relationships. The best part is that compatibility analysis is straightforward: I just need your date of birth and the person you're interested in. That's it. You don't even need to know what time they were born, which is particularly helpful if you've only just started dating someone and don't want to scare them off by asking for their exact birth time, especially given all those internet memes about women asking men for their birth details before they've even agreed on a second date :)
With this analysis, you'll explore your individual matrices and your combined compatibility matrix, and gain a deeper understanding of your relationship's potential dynamics. Not as a guarantee of what will happen, or a substitute for getting to know someone in real life, but as another tool for self-awareness and reflection.
Perhaps Some People Aren't Meant to Stay
I want to finish with the thought I started with: why do some people touch our souls more than others?
Maybe because they awaken something in us that was waiting to be discovered (for example, our sexuality). Or because they challenge us in ways nobody else has. Perhaps because they help us take a step toward a life we wouldn't have imagined otherwise. Or because the connection itself, however brief, carries a lesson that stays with us long after the person is gone.
I don't believe every meaningful relationship has to last forever, and I certainly don't believe the end of a relationship automatically makes it a failure. Sometimes people come into our lives for a season and a reason (as a matter of fact, I firmly believe everything happens for a reason). Sometimes for a lifetime, and sometimes for what feels like a fleeting moment. But the impact they leave can be disproportionate to how much time we actually spent together.
Maybe the real question isn't why someone didn't stay.
Maybe the question is: why did they come into my life in the first place?
And what did that encounter help me discover about myself?
Because sometimes, understanding a connection's purpose is what finally lets us appreciate it, learn from it, and move on.
With love,
Zara
Have you ever met someone who, despite being in your life for a relatively short period of time, left a profound mark on you?
Maybe it was a romantic relationship that lasted only a few weeks or months, or maybe it was someone you met while travelling, someone you dated briefly, or even someone you never ended up having a proper relationship with.
And yet, years later, you still remember that person. Not necessarily because you miss them or want them back, but because something about that connection felt different.
On the scale of a lifetime, your encounter was merely a glimpse. And yet, somehow, this particular person managed to touch your soul in a way that others, perhaps even those who spent years by your side, never did.
Why does that happen?
Why do we meet hundreds, if not thousands, of people throughout our lives, yet only a handful leave a mark that stays with us? Why do some connections feel almost instantaneous, as if you've known that person forever, even though you've only just met? And perhaps the most interesting question: what if a relationship's significance has very little to do with its duration?
I don't know about you, but I've been curious to understand this phenomenon for quite some time.
Of course, as someone who practices regression therapy, I can always approach this question from the perspective of past lives and karmic connections.
Through past-life exploration, we can investigate whether two people share a deeper connection, whether their souls have crossed paths before, and whether unresolved lessons or experiences brought them back together.
In my practice, these explorations often reveal what clients interpret as karmic connections. And as one of my teachers, Dr. Yuvraj Kapadia jokingly said during our transpersonal regression therapy course: if you meet someone and feel as if you’ve known them forever, RUN! This is karmic (so it will be painful).
Regression sessions can certainly help people find personal answers to questions that may have bothered them for years.
But because I practice several different modalities, I've always been fascinated by something else.
What do all these modalities have in common?
Different Modalities, the Same Truth?
Over the past 6 years, I've been studying and practicing various approaches to understanding human behaviour, consciousness, our subconscious programming, and the patterns that shape our lives.
And one of my favourite things to do is compare them.
* Crazy shit alert: after doing a life purpose session during our transpersonal regression training, I know why – I love knowledge because in one of my previous incarnations, at least as per that session, I was inhabiting a knowledge planet – like a library of the universe that got destroyed because they didn’t want anyone to have access to true knowledge anymore.
But back to what my love of comparison charts has anything to do with the life of practical humans. Whether we're talking about hypnotherapy, regression, Tarot, Kabbalah, numerical psychology, or other spiritual systems, I'm always curious to see where they overlap and where they differ.
And spoiler alert: they have a lot in common.
To me, these similarities suggest that different traditions describe universal principles, each in its own language. After all, the truth is universal; it's just wrapped in different covers.
If it wasn’t, would it even be the truth?
One modality may call something karma or tikkun, another may describe it as a subconscious pattern, while a third uses numbers, archetypes, or planetary energies to explain a similar phenomenon. The terminology changes, but the underlying ideas can be surprisingly similar.
This is also why I've always felt that our date of birth contains far more nuance than a simple description of our personality.
Those of you familiar with my work in numerical psychology already know that I use the date of birth to calculate what we call the Consciousness Number, the Mission Number, and the Matrix.
Sometimes, knowing just the day someone was born—their Consciousness Number—is enough to give you an interesting perspective on how that person perceives the world, what motivates them, how they communicate, and why they may behave a certain way.
I unpack these concepts in my individual sessions and teach people how to use them in my numerical psychology workshops. But I felt there was more to discover. I wanted to understand not only who we are as individuals, but also why two particular people meet and what happens when their energies come together.
And so I started looking.
When the Student Is Ready, the Teacher Appears
There's a saying: When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
And this has been remarkably true throughout my life. Whenever I have a question I genuinely want to answer, I seem to come across someone who helps me find it. Sometimes that person appears through a recommendation, sometimes through a completely unexpected encounter, and sometimes almost by accident.
This time was no different. After spending quite some time researching, comparing different systems and working with various large language models to explore the connections between numerical psychology, Tarot and Kabbalah, I accidentally stumbled upon a teacher who introduced me to a modality called Destiny Matrix.
Now, let me tell you something: learning yet another modality was absolutely NOT on my agenda. In fact, I promised myself I wouldn't start studying anything new for a while. Because the learning curve is endless.
For the past 6 years, I've been studying almost religiously. And at some point, you realize that there will always be another course, another technique, another system, another layer of knowledge to explore.
I already have quite a few modalities under my belt, and I don't practice each one in isolation. Quite the opposite, I combine my knowledge and choose the approaches I believe are most appropriate for the particular issue a client brings to me. So the last thing I was planning to do was add another modality to my collection.
But when Destiny Matrix came into my life, something clicked, and I realized it was exactly what I had been looking for over the past couple of years.
What Is Destiny Matrix?
Destiny Matrix is a system that uses your date of birth and 22 archetypal energies associated with the Major Arcana of Tarot to explore different aspects of your personality, life path, and relationships.
It draws on numerological and esoteric traditions and offers a symbolic framework for understanding our strengths, challenges, recurring patterns, and what practitioners describe as karmic lessons.
What fascinated me most was how beautifully it complemented my existing knowledge of numerical psychology. Because now I could explore not only the individual, but also the connection between two individuals.
Why did these two people meet?
What brought them together?
What lessons might they have for one another?
What are their strengths as a couple?
What are the potential challenges?
And perhaps most importantly, what can each person do to help the relationship grow instead of repeating the same destructive patterns?
Naturally, I started experimenting.
I ran compatibility analyses on several connections from my own life, including people who had played particularly important roles. I was genuinely fascinated by how accurately some interpretations seemed to reflect my experiences. Not just the obvious things, but certain nuances of those relationships that I hadn't expected to see reflected in the matrices.
Of course, I see these systems as tools for reflection rather than scientific proof of destiny. But personally, the results were compelling enough to make me want to explore the modality much further.
And this brings me back to the question I started with: why do some people touch our souls more than others?
What If Every Relationship Is a Contract?
I want you to think about relationships from a slightly different perspective.
What if every relationship is a contract between two souls?
Imagine two parties coming together and signing an agreement.
Every party has certain rights, responsibilities, and obligations. This agreement has a purpose, something both parties are supposed to accomplish. Once that purpose is fulfilled, the contract may naturally come to an end.
Now apply this principle to human relationships: what if some people come into our lives not to stay forever, but to help us accomplish something? Sometimes that something is beautiful, and often — incredibly painful. Sometimes we only understand that connection's purpose years after it ends.
For example, two people may come together because they're destined to have children. They fall in love, get married, start a family, and eventually realize their romantic relationship no longer works. They separate, but remain connected through their children and become co-parents.
From a soul-contract perspective, having those children may have been one of the main purposes of their union.
Or maybe you meet someone, fall in love, and that person introduces you to a completely new world. Perhaps through them you discover a new profession, meet someone who changes the direction of your life, or develop an interest that eventually becomes your vocation.
Maybe that person helps you move to another country. Maybe they challenge your beliefs or force you to confront something about yourself you've been avoiding for years. And sometimes the lesson is much harsher: a broken heart, betrayal, infidelity, rejection.
An experience that forces you to reconsider your boundaries, your self-worth, or the kind of relationship you're willing to accept. By the way, I'm not suggesting that betrayal or mistreatment is justified just because it might teach us a lesson. But I do believe that even our most painful experiences can become opportunities for growth if we're willing to see them from a different perspective. Sometimes, what initially feels like a devastating ending becomes the beginning of an entirely new chapter.
My Own Example
Let me give you an example from my own life.
I am almost convinced that one of my ex-husband's main roles in my life was to help me relocate to Dubai. That's where I found my community, discovered my new vocation, started exploring the modalities that eventually became such an important part of my life, and truly connected with what I believe is my life purpose.
Would that have happened if I had stayed in Moscow?
Maybe. But I suspect it would have been a completely different journey, and maybe I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing today.
So when I look back at that relationship through the lens of a soul contract, I can see the important purpose it served. And once that purpose was fulfilled, our romantic relationship no longer made sense, and we went our separate ways (rather fast :)). But that doesn't mean the relationship was a failure. Quite the opposite – it played an incredibly important role in my life, and I'm grateful for that. We're still quite friendly, and I genuinely wish him all the best from the bottom of my heart, and I know he feels the same.
Which brings me to another thought.
What if we stopped measuring a relationship's success solely by whether it lasted forever? What if we started asking ourselves what that relationship brought into our lives, what it taught us, and how it helped us become the people we are today?
Perhaps we would look at some of our past relationships very differently, and we'd find it easier to let go of the ones that have already served their purpose.
By the way, one of the most amazing tools I learned myself and have been teaching my clients, friends, family, and colleagues is 7x70, a way to connect with another human not on the ego level, but on the soul level. If you want to improve your relationship with someone or get closure, say the following phrase 70 times for 7 consecutive days: I, the soul of Zara, thank for all the lessons and apologize to the soul of John (John being the name of another person, irrespective of the nature of your relationship). Naturally, the more pain a relationship invokes, the harder this practice is, and the more it indicates you should absolutely do it. And of course, if you skip a day, you have to start again.
Why 2026 Made Me Look More Closely at Relationships
Now, there's another interesting aspect to this story.
According to numerical psychology, 2026 has been my personal year 2, and the energy of 2 is associated with the Moon – the energy of relationships, emotional sensitivity, intuition, connections, and looking within. It's a year when our attention may naturally shift towards the people in our lives: the relationships we want to establish, and the connections we want to strengthen. And sometimes, the relationships we need to reconsider or let go of because they no longer work for us, whether we've outgrown them or finally realized a relationship has been unhealthy, even toxic, and we were simply oblivious before.
So it's probably no coincidence that relationships, both personal and professional, have been on my radar more than usual this year.
And now, as we've entered a new energetic year, I'm gradually transitioning towards my personal energy of 3. Three is associated with Jupiter — the planet of wisdom, knowledge, expansion, teaching, leadership, and justice.
Given my love of learning and analyzing everything, that sounds right!
By the way, if you're curious what 2027 has in store for you, you can calculate your personal year too: take your birth day and month, reduce them to single digits, and add the energy of the universal year.
For 2027, the universal year is 2, because 2 + 0 + 2 + 7 = 11, and 1 + 1 = 2.
For example, if you were born on 18 October, your day is 1 + 8 = 9, your month is 1 + 0 = 1, and your 2027 calculation is 9 + 1 + 2 = 12, which reduces to 3.
And if you want to understand what your personal year means, you can download my free Personal Year Guide.
Introducing Love Compatibility Through Destiny Matrix
So, coming back to Destiny Matrix.
The more I explored this modality, the more I realized how useful it could be for understanding relationships. First, it gives you another perspective on yourself, your strengths, your shadow side, your recurring patterns, and the lessons you may need to work through.
Secondly, it helps you understand the other person, whether that's your current partner, your ex, or someone you've only recently met and are particularly interested in. Thirdly, it lets you explore the dynamics of your connection.
Why might you have met?
What do you bring into each other's lives?
Where are your energies particularly compatible, and where might you encounter challenges?
And why might this particular person have affected you so deeply, while someone else, who perhaps looked perfect on paper, left you completely indifferent?
The Destiny Matrix framework offers one way to reflect on these questions.
And that's why this November, I'm introducing a new service: Love Compatibility based on the Destiny Matrix.
Now, Destiny Matrix isn't limited to romantic relationships; you can also use it to explore your financial patterns, life purpose, strengths, challenges, shadow aspects, and other areas of your life.
It's a remarkably versatile system.
And who knows? Maybe next year, under the influence of Jupiter and my personal year 3, I'll introduce another product to help you explore where your money is hiding according to your Destiny Matrix.
But for now, we're focusing on love and relationships. The best part is that compatibility analysis is straightforward: I just need your date of birth and the person you're interested in. That's it. You don't even need to know what time they were born, which is particularly helpful if you've only just started dating someone and don't want to scare them off by asking for their exact birth time, especially given all those internet memes about women asking men for their birth details before they've even agreed on a second date :)
With this analysis, you'll explore your individual matrices and your combined compatibility matrix, and gain a deeper understanding of your relationship's potential dynamics. Not as a guarantee of what will happen, or a substitute for getting to know someone in real life, but as another tool for self-awareness and reflection.
Perhaps Some People Aren't Meant to Stay
I want to finish with the thought I started with: why do some people touch our souls more than others?
Maybe because they awaken something in us that was waiting to be discovered (for example, our sexuality). Or because they challenge us in ways nobody else has. Perhaps because they help us take a step toward a life we wouldn't have imagined otherwise. Or because the connection itself, however brief, carries a lesson that stays with us long after the person is gone.
I don't believe every meaningful relationship has to last forever, and I certainly don't believe the end of a relationship automatically makes it a failure. Sometimes people come into our lives for a season and a reason (as a matter of fact, I firmly believe everything happens for a reason). Sometimes for a lifetime, and sometimes for what feels like a fleeting moment. But the impact they leave can be disproportionate to how much time we actually spent together.
Maybe the real question isn't why someone didn't stay.
Maybe the question is: why did they come into my life in the first place?
And what did that encounter help me discover about myself?
Because sometimes, understanding a connection's purpose is what finally lets us appreciate it, learn from it, and move on.
With love,
Zara
NOVEMBER 2026